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2006-09-19 - And her hallway moves like the ocean

I'm often told I have a youthfulness about my personality that can be charming. What isn't apparent though is the reason for this suspension of time. I didn't cope in childhood and there's little evidence I'm doing any better as an adult. Anger, deep sadness, weeks of silence. These things are not natural. Sure it helps to talk things out here, but my atrocities still horrify me. I'm astounded at my capacity for hate. Self-hatred in particular. I am an adult child trying desperately to grow up, and failing miserably. All the old coping tricks from childhood, the masochistic self punishment, and cutting gashes into flesh, these things are never far from my disposal. Self-restriction of things I love doing, withdrawing, all of these are a ready resource.

It wasn't until late evening that I remembered the dream. I was in the low country, Charleston, somewhere near the Battery. A hurricane was coming in and it was too late to leave. We would have to ride this one out. The waters are rising, streets are disappearing and I'm terrified. Doesn't anyone understand we're all going to die? The water is coming in now. The incoming tide and the storm swell are filling the first floor with salty water and seaweed. And just when I can stand no more I suddenly find myself in a sort of mall. An antique dealer motions me to come over to him. He has an embroidered child's toy, a game of some sort where you must extract small plastic crickets from pockets. He says to me, 'You look like a discriminating individual.' I am amused and relieved. Because not only am I no one's idea of a "discriminating" individual, but now I'm sure it's a dream and I can wake up. The nightmare is over, no more rising water, no more storm, no more helplessness. There's just this desperate man trying to flatter me so he can make money. It's okay again.

 
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